What Are You Waiting For?
Have you ever put
something off until you were at a certain point in
your life where in your mind everything would be
perfect? I will use weight as an example here but
this could apply to any area of your life where we
wait for everything to be perfect before we do
something.
I’m sure I am not the only one who thinks ‘I’ll do
that / go there / buy that when I lose a few more
lbs!’ Many of us put things off because our weight
or something else in our lives isn’t perfect right
at this moment. If so many of us do this - why does
it happen?
It could well be that you are using your weight (or
whatever your issue is) as an excuse to put things
off. It is hard to believe that when you don’t seem
to be able to control your eating, you may be
subconsciously sabotaging your efforts. This is
because we fear change or worry that we won’t be
able to handle what is expected of us once the
weight or issue is out of the way! All the while it
is there, it can be a great excuse to hide behind.
Does any of this seem familiar to you? Can you
identify the real reasons why you are holding onto
your weight or something else that is holding you
back in life? There is always a reason behind our
actions - it is sometimes just very hard to find, or
we choose not to find it! We create physical and
mental barriers to protect ourselves and there is
nothing wrong with that - we do the best that we can
in the present moment.
Here are some steps to identify and start overcoming
these barriers:
-
Self
acceptance - don’t blame yourself for being in
the position that you are in. There is a reason
that your life is as it is and you need to trust
that you have done your best up till now to
nurture yourself in your present situation.
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If
your weight is holding you back, imagine that
you have had a spell put upon you and your
weight will never change again - you won't lose
and you won't gain. Now that this is something
you can't change are you going to let it stop
you from living your life the way you want to?
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Make a
list of what you want to achieve or what you
have been putting off until now. This does not
have to be any overly ambitious achievements or
something you consider out of your reach - small
steps are perfect! Next to the list of what you
want to achieve, list the possible excuses you
have been making to avoid going for your goals.
-
Now
take each goal and write down actions you can
take that will move you closer to your goal.
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Keep
the list close by - take 1 or 2 items that you
can do for yourself in the coming week that move
you that much closer to your goal and do them!
Once you have achieved that - keep taking small
steps to move closer and closer to what you
want.
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Don't
forget to reward yourself along the way - we
sometimes achieve so much without giving
ourselves the recognition that we deserve.
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Look
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Sometimes, even identifying that our current actions
are protecting ourselves because we fear change or
progress is a huge step forward. Remember - one step
at a time is all it takes! Just be honest with
yourself and more importantly accept yourself just
as you are - only then you will be in the position
to make some real changes.
Useful
Resources:
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